then a video on co-sleeping to illustrate some words of Laura Gutman about the loneliness of the baby in the crib and sudden death.
When the news spreads by the sudden death of a baby, fear of the unpredictable and the false assertion that the possibility is "random", ie that can happen our baby at any moment seizes us, with the idea that chance will depend on the good or the bad luck we have.
But things are not so. The "sudden death" is misnamed. We should call "Crib death." To be precise, we should call it "cot death while alone.." No healthy babies die suddenly in the arms of a person maternante. Discuss whether to put them to sleep face up or face down, reflecting the appalling ignorance that Westerners share on the world of babies. The only thing to investigate is whether the babies sleep alone or if they stay in full contact whatsoever with another human body. All
breeding mammal of any kind knows that can not be alone, because it is exposed to predators. The human baby knows exactly the same, so it uses its two main tools for survival: crying and sucking. However, if after mourn and mourn and mourn, no adult goes to save him ... because "you have to get used to sleeping alone," appears resignation and painful certainty of knowing you are alone in this world. Then, in their eagerness to be loved, to reclaim presence and body contact in many ways: getting sick, crying at inappropriate times, hurting, not gaining weight, depressed ... until one night ... in the midst of a profound silence, decides not to wake up .
What do men and women decent and good thinking? We tell the mother to return to work soon, that is strong, not loosen, do not give up, that we want, to be brave, to take care of herself, taking claw, fight, go ahead.
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While all the mothers of recollection and silence of motherhood and while we recognize only in the public or successful, we'll still all responsible for each baby who decides to leave, tired of solitude, quiet and cold.
Laura Gutman
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Book: revolution mothers
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Laura Gutman: http://www.lauragutman.com.ar/
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Hoarse Mourn :
- Article "co-sleeping or bed sharing to 5 years"
- Article "Where the children sleep"
